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Princesses are not fragile, they’re WARRIORS!

K. L.  https://klregister.wordpress.com/ I found this in a post on Facebook, and it made me think of you. I could see you writing something like this. You seem like a strong, level headed warrior princess to me! I hope you enjoy this, as well as anyone else who might read it!

P.S. I didn’t change the grammatical errors, since it wasn’t my work, but the Grammar Nazi inside me REALLY wanted to! 😉

bedtime story:

“i don’t imagine my princesses in the same way
others do, either kissing their husband and in
marital perfection or the cynical version where they are drunk
in the kitchen, living out their happily ever afters in
a haze of poor decisions, no,

i think cinderella becomes a fashion designer, i think
she stops smoking and takes back her name and
ends up making money and being a spokesperson
for abuse victims, i think right now if ella was alive
she’d be laughing over a pumpkin-spice latte and
her empire is the most body-inclusive in fashion

i think snow-white becomes an activist, i think she
studies genetics and i think she will allow
no person with a disability to go homeless, i think
whenever someone makes a joke about seven small men,
she whips around and asks them what exactly their problem is
because there is nothing wrong with
any of her friends

i think aurora is a sleep disorder doctor
and a psychologist, she uses hypnosis to help people
who can’t quite escape the thicket inside of their brains and
i think she’s working on developing a pill for people
with chronic insomnia even though everyone still teases her
about that one bout of narcolepsy and one day she admits
she actually was awake for most of it and just studying

i think ariel has shut down marine life poaching in
as many parts of her country as she can, i think that
she’s got teams working to clean up oil spills
and she’s building windmills in her backyard because
she’d rather have the “eyesore” than know someone is
drilling in her home, i think she has degrees in environmental
science and marine biology, i think she’s got a side project for scuba divers and oceanography and is devising a way for
mermaids to visit her land without giving up their tails

i think belle is a veterinarian and runs her practice
out of her father’s house
where his inventions have saved the lives of at least
ninety dogs and i think that she is a teacher in her free time
and since she can’t change the actions of their parents, in her classroom she has taught gaston’s eight kids to be nothing short
of polite and well-mannered and i think that she takes
frequent trips outside of her little quiet town but
always comes home again

i think jasmine is a feminist in every aspect, i believe
she works with shelters and soup kitchens and makes sure
nobody starves in her city ever again, i think she sets up
homes for homeless women, i think she marches in rallies
and has a school specifically for gifted girls that
were almost married off to strange men

i think she becomes outspoken about being bisexual and uses her position of power to lobby for more than just equal marriage laws because she knows better than most what it’s like to have your desire for love ignored
see, i think when we cast these women as only a prize to be won
and that their life stops as soon as the credits roll, i think
when we joke about how everything went south
right after it all,
we’re telling girls, “you will regret that you ever fell in love
or believed in magic when you were small,” see
you can believe in happy endings, but believe too
in the princesses themselves,
believe that marriage isn’t the only goal
a girl can set for herself,

believe that if these girls fought to stay alive
when an evil queen was chasing them,
if they fought to give up their nature
for the chance of more adventure, if they fought
the sultan himself and society’s expectations:
something tells me that their happily ever after
isn’t resting on their laurels, something tells me
they’d seek just a little more,
something tells me that they’d keep fighting until
there is a happy ending for every single
little girl

believe in yourself, princess, and know that
even if you want a career and husband
and twelve happy children,
you are not deluding yourself of anything. it is
completely possible to actually have
everything

it is okay for you to want a job and a home
and a family and a kingdom. you are strong enough.
you would handle it.

please don’t let anyone
tell you
different.”

—sit tall today, my love. your dreams are valid and you are always good enough / r.i.d.

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Adventure Awaits

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So, it’s been a long time since I blogged, and with good reason! My family has recently picked up and moved to another country… as in Tortola in the British Virgin Islands! If you’ve read any of my previous blogs, you’ll know that I was having a pretty tough time letting go of all of my belongings and trying to decide what to take and what to leave behind. It got even harder when my Hubbs called one night and said, “Instead of shipping a bunch of boxes over here, why don’t you just see what you can fit into your suitcases and we’ll replace what we really need.” At first I thought that was a great idea! Then, I realized I had to go back through all of my things that I had set aside under the “SHIP” sign. It didn’t look like a mountain before, but looking back at it again, it gave Mt. Kilimanjaro a run for her money! In the end, with the help of my wonderful mother, I was able to get the essentials into 4 suitcases and 4 carry-ons, with the promise that a few extra items would be shipped down for me in a week or two. And then, after a few parties and well wishes from loved one,we were on our way to our new adventure!

Three planes and one water ferry later (and more than a few hours late), we arrived in our new home! It was dark when we landed, so we couldn’t see much, except the stars! There were billions of them! There were so many stars that it was impossible to find the familiar constellations that I always looked for back home! It was as if God had been sprinkling the skies with stars that He had in a jar and He must have tripped and got them everywhere!!! They were exceptional!

My Hubbs awaited us just beyond the customs booth. We tiredly fell into his waiting arms and he asked if we were hungry and if we wanted to go to his restaurant and eat. We were both exhausted and famished. We’d had no time to get anything to eat during our travels, as we ran (literally) from plane to plane. Luckily, the restaurant was just across the street, so we didn’t have far to go. We loaded our luggage into a closet and headed for our table. The staff was very friendly and they all came up to introduce themselves. My Hubb’s bosses (a lovely married couple) came and chatted with us a bit. The more I spoke to them, the more I saw what my husband had seen on his first trip. They were very kind and hospitable. They were warm and welcoming and seemed honestly interested in my daughter and me. I saw that my husband was definitely in good hands there.

After a delicious meal of grouper and fries, followed by chocolate gelato, we sat on a nearby couch to wait for the Hubbs to finish his shift. Our daughter ended up falling asleep in my lap and I patiently waited, as I listened to my fellow patrons enjoying their meals and fought with Mr. Sandman to keep myself awake. It was a good thing our daughter had taken a nap, because her daddy had gotten her a Christmas gift that would not wait until morning!

We took a taxi up a mountain to our house, and as we approached the driveway, my Hubbs turns to me and says, “You’re gonna love this!” I look out the front window and it was as if the world just fell away, and the driver was still moving ahead! Our driveway was literally so steep that I couldn’t even see it before us for a few moments. It was actually terrifying, and my wonderful Hubbs thought it was the funniest thing in the world. If you ever need a good work out, come trek up and down my drive way a few times. That will work you out!

Once in the house, my Hubbs asks our daughter if she’s ready for her first gift. She tiredly rubs her eyes and nods her sleepy head. He opens the bathroom door and out bounds this tiny, adorable dog! Marley is her name. Our daughter squeals and, of course, is instantly wide awake! It took an hour or more to get her to sleep after that.

The next morning, I woke before anyone else in the house, which is typical. Can’t I ever just sleep in?! I guess it’s just not in the cards for me. I’m a doer, not a sleeper, I suppose. I went out onto the porch and got the first views of our new surroundings. We’re up so high on the mountain, you can see forever! The water is a brilliant turquoise blue, and there are all kinds of ships out on the water: cruise ships, pirate ships, catamarans, and smaller, personal boats. We’d traded in parking lots for boat docks. The air was fresh and the breeze was wonderful! The lush green foliage blended so beautifully to make a picture perfect scene. It looked like something out of a travel magazine.

My husband took us to a beach that day and we washed away the chill of the 11 degree weather we’d run from. We swam in the clear, blue waters and basked in the sun as we hunted for shells on the beach. I had left the house that morning with snow white skin, and returned that afternoon with red lobster skin. It was a small price to pay for the wonderful memories we had made that day.

I still have my worries and it’s still all so new and different. I’m still missing my life back in Cincinnati, but this new life is so promising! There are so many new things to explore, people to meet, places to go, wildlife that we haven’t seen. It’s an adventure for sure, and one that I am finally ready to take on! I have so much more that I want to tell you, but for now, I think I’ve made you jealous enough. Until next time….